You’re Not Just Creating Their Childhood—You’re Living Your Motherhood

Art of Raising Humans
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Mother hugging her child — You can create both a beautiful childhood for your kiddos and a joy filled motherhood!

What You’ll Learn: You’re not just shaping your child’s story (their childhood), you’re living your own. This post is an invitation to reflect on how to create your motherhood with the same intention and care you bring to your parenting. This is a topic that is near to my (Sara's) heart. I hope more moms (and dads) feel permission to do this.

We Think So Much About Their Childhood…

As parents, especially mothers, we often carry the weight of shaping our kids’ childhoods.

We think about what they'll remember.

We stress over getting it right.

We give and give—our time, energy, patience, and heart—because we care so deeply about the kind of people our children will become.

We want them to have childhood memories full of laughter, love, and growth.

We each have our own way of doing this. Maybe birthdays are a big deal to you. Maybe family game nights. Maybe having the perfect arts and crafts is your thing.

Whatever it is, I see so many moms working so hard to curate that most wonderful childhood for their children. It's beautiful...but here’s something we don’t talk about enough:

You’re not just creating their childhood. You’re living your motherhood.

This Season Is Yours Too (It's Your Motherhood)

This isn’t just their story. It’s yours, too. (Did you hear that, it's yours, too)

And one day, long after your kids have grown, you’ll look back—not just on who they became, but on who you were in the process.

What kind of mother did you get to be? Did you enjoy her? Was she curious, calm, connected—even in the chaos?

Your motherhood is a chapter in your life—not just a role you fulfill for others.

3 Questions to Ask Yourself To Give Inspiration for Creating Your Motherhood

1. What kind of motherhood do I want to remember? Think beyond what your kids need. What do you need to feel proud of how you showed up in this season?

2. Where can I bring more intention? Are there moments that feel like a blur—that could become more grounded with a pause, a breath, a shift?

3. What do I want my kids to remember about me? Not just what I did for them, but who I was with them.

This Is Not About Perfection

This isn’t another thing to add to your to-do list. It’s not about getting motherhood "right."

It’s about realizing that your story matters too. You won't be all the kinds of moms (crafty, social, silly...) and that's not the point. Look at who you are and what kind of mom you want to be. Be her. Be you.